Adjust Yourself In Susral


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When two guys get married, actually iť's marriage between two familes. Perhaps, boy is married to only girl and girl is married to his whole family, relatives and neighbours; so on. I guess in the whole marriage scenario, the courtship period is best, because everybody tries to be their best with the girl (the in-laws side). Soon after marriage, everybody change. It's like they come into real person now.
List of expectations is given to Bahu/Biwi everyday in the form of lectures & self appraising stories (hum ye bhi karte the & wo bhi khud hi karte the). Soon they realise with their actions that ' hey you bahu, you are an outsider 'don't interfere in our matters but we will surely interfere in your's.
Our mother's always tell that when you will go susral, you will have two mother's. No
maa, that's not true, she is not a mother & can't be. She is only Husband's mother. For her, Bahu is her son's wife only, so how you can say that she will be like mother, she can never be. The Bahu always tries to search a mother figure in her mother-in-law (most of the girls). But she fails to find that. Each
day, she has to pass an exam of humiliation, illogical comparison between her and her sis-in-laws and other Bahus. It's as tough to be with these kind of  people. Till when a girl can alone fight for
her insults. I mean she gets tired with this everyday new issues. It's so tough to live with so many adjustments & compromises. Two guys get married not for compromises. They marry for beautiful life
ahead. But is that true? Can they make them with so many complaints, taunts & fights? A girl is all left alone, living with so many relations. She has no body to talk, no one to advise her for anything even husbands get weird and harsh at times. But yes she can adjust herself. She is a strong women. She has to find herself, as she has lost herself between the fake souls. There are many ways to make your self happy.
1. Consider that you are living alone in the house & when a person is living alone, she
has no one to talk & no one to advise her. She has to become independent for herslf n
her kid.
2.If anyone is bitching about you, then you are a strong women. They don't have guys to
tell you anything bad on your face.
3. The best answer to an idiot is giving no answer. They want you to speak up, to loweryour energy level.
4. Whenever you are frustated, go out for shopping or meet your friends. If you can't,
lock yourself in your room and play music on highest volume. 
Everygirl comes from a very good family. They are given good values. How can you depress yourself then. No one can make you depress, unless you want it. Don't give your happiness key to anybody's hands, you are princess to your parents. Be happy for them, they smile when their daughters are happy.
I hope if anybody is going through all these

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